very upset and offtrack...for now - Raw Food Chat

rawitup · 01-19-2008

i deleted my post. i was very upset at the time and just needed to vent. i don't really want that bad vibe hanging around.

healthyme · 01-19-2008

Wow, you were definitely upset! I hope you feel better today, keep up all your hard work. Do what you believe in and lead by example, others either will recognize that strength in you and applaud it or they won't. You know the saying "You can't please everyone". Don't try. As for your father, maybe he needed to vent too. I hope you can mend things with him. Keep calm and positive and know we support you on this end.

rawitup · 01-19-2008

i really appreciate the encouragement healthyme. thank you. i hope i can mend things too. for now i just need to let things cool off and get my head level again. thanks again!

Double Helix · 01-20-2008

Aw, I missed it. Oh well. I hope you feel better. I had a bit of a day myself and wondered if it was related to my hormones. Everything seemed to tick me off, so I called a friend who could relate and I felt so much better. It's good to have a few close friends so that you can call the one appropriate to the situation you are in!

rawitup · 01-20-2008

yeah, you missed it. you probably would've given some good feedback. you always do

hope you're feeling a bit more calm and happy today.
i'm still pretty upset and i think it'll take me awhile before i can talk with my dad and not be thinking about how much his words hurt me sometimes and how he almost never supports me in anything i do. sure my dad helps me out with paying for school, but i'd rather him not pay for anything and instead support me and be happy for me. i'd much rather that. but i think he feels as though he can just hand out money to me and in turn he won't have to be considerate of my feelings. that's not what i want at all. so yeah i'v still got a lot of emotions to deal with. okay i could talk all day and bore you with my problems

, but i won't. happy days.

roadrunner · 01-20-2008

Itll be ok Rawitup,
I have the same problem with my family because theyre not used to me eating like i do and find it "wrong" or "unhealthy" but now that Ive been this way for a while theyre seeing the changes in me and the ENERGY I have and are now asking questions!! At one point about a month or so ago I looked pretty frail ,peekid, and bony, or sikly which was because I was and am still detoxing, and youre body keeps dropping weight from water retention it used to use to fight off toxins from SAD and it doesnt need the water retention anymore so it gets rid of it plus the fat just goes away from everywhere including problem areas like your love handles,rear,legs etc. but then your weight finally stabilizes when your body gets adjusted to the raw healthy diet vs the SAD diet where youre body is CONSTANTLY fighting toxins. Now Ive stabilized at 160, I went as low as 157 but now 160 and maintain this weight and Im feeling more and more energy each day and Im also noticing the weakness is going away and Im feeling stronger.so hang in there its ok dont worry too much about friends and family theyll see what youre becoming in no time!!
Even my friends are now asking questions and are becoming interested in what Im doing!! I love it. I used to never really care about what others do and all but now Ihate seeing people eating SAD it disturbes me and so I try and spread the word weather they listen or not because what it boils down to is ME. I feel what im doing is right so I roll with it.Cheer up!!

Double Helix · 01-21-2008

rawitup sounds like a manipulative situation, but you are in charge of you and it can't be any other way. I don't know you age - I'm assuming you are out of the house? It can be a more difficult thing if you are under your father's care and have little choice.

I'm sure things'll get better, just give it some time.

rawitup · 01-29-2008

hey guys, haven't been joining in on the conversations in awhile. i went off raw for about a week, but now i'm going back to my raw life. i was not feeling well at all while eating cooked food. i felt really weak and was tired and was getting headaches. what's funny is i wasn't even eating that bad of food compared to the regular SAD diet. but i think my body had gotten used to the fresh raw foods and was freaking out at me for eating all this bad food. i was eating a lot of steamed veggies with rice. although, every few days i was eating some chips or chocolate. bleckh. and i went to starbucks a couple of times with my bro and got a muffin and tea. now i'm back on a very high raw diet. i was doing 100% raw before, but now i think i'm just going to do a high raw diet. i think that's all i can handle at the moment. i might end up just naturally going back to 100%. but for now it's not in the books.
i did end up mending things with my dad. so that's good! you guys were a great help when i was down!

healthyme · 01-29-2008

I am glad you worked things out with your dad. Keep the lines of communication open. My husband is supportive of me but still doesn't fully understand my need to be raw. I just lovingly tell him it's something I need right now and leave it at that and he's okay with that explanation.
I too have had a few ups and downs. Home has been great but work is a little overwhelming. I work with a diverse group and the work ethic of some is just not what I am used to or expect. I have a harder time being patient with people I know could apply themselves better but they just don't want to. It's very frustrating. I am trying to lead by example, I supervise but I am sitting out with them and working along side them more and more to show that the amount and quality of work doesn't have to suffer just because we are short staffed right now. Good news is that a new coworker has started orientation this week and I should be able to lift some of the burden of my department.
Thanks for listening and have a great Raw day!

rawitup · 01-29-2008

yep, you're right about the need for communication. my dad ended up apologizing to me in a short letter. and i kind of didn't say anything for a few days because i was afraid i would explode and say something i didn't really mean. but finally i knew i needed to either talk to him face to face or write a letter. i ended up writing a letter and well i practically spilled my guts about a lot of things that i've been going through. i was being brutally honest about a lot of things. i gave him the letter and he read it and i think he really understood and was appreciative that i took the time to explain things to him.
it sounds like you're doing great at keeping people spirits up at your work. and it's great that you're able to see why some of the people's work ethics are not exactly up to par and are trying to fix that. that's the kind of supervisor people need-someone who doesn't just give out orders, but someone who really understands why people are doing what they're doing and can be honest with them and tell them what needs improving. i hope the new coworker works out for you.

keep it natural and happy!