Hi Anisha,
First off, way to go
sticking to it and still being willing to go out on the social scene. That's been a hard one for me as I have to go out to meals with clients and coworkers/friends several times a week. It's gotten better with my coworkers/friends and now I'll even bring my own salad dressing! I relate this treatment that you're talking about to when my husband stopped drinking and later when I stopped wanting to go to clubs and parties all the time and started eating raw. Maybe it will help you to remember similar times in your life and will understand more of why she may be acting the way she is.
The girl I was going to parties with and out all the time, we were inseparable! Saw each other almost everyday and we did lots of other things together, watch movies, swim, walks, workout, racquetball. Now that I don't want to go with her til the wee hours of the morning and drink with her, I RARELY see her. Maybe once every other week. The reason is and I asked her one night when she was drunk and I had to take her home... She feels guilty that she's drinking when she knows she shouldn't be because it's making her overweight, depressed and it hurts her stomach. She still always tries to get me to drink when I see her when she knows I won't and will say something like "oh, no fun" or "oh, you're still doing that raw thing?". This from the same girl that totally supported me going raw, but now that I'm sticking to it, doesn't like it. That 'raw' thing
My husband, years ago, thought he had a drinking problem. All his friends always hung out at the local bar and pretty much all they did was eat out and drink. His friends thought he was crazy for thinking he had a problem. At this point he, was at the time, overweight, depressed and had a dim future, not to mention his father was a recovered alcoholic. He tells me it was uncomfortable the first few times hanging out with them and they'd make little jokes and some said they supported him. He had cleaned himself up, he wasn't as depressed and was loosing some weight. But after a little while it got kind of nasty. They didn't want him around anymore if he wasn't drinking and he pretty much had to stop hanging out with them and it ended up splitting up his relationship with a girl that was a heavy drinker.
Bottom line is... whatever you're doing, it's something that your roommate wishes she could do too. She knows that it would help her feel better and loose weight but wants to do that and eat her steak too (like most americans).
Now you come along and you're actually doing it when she may have been supportive at first, but most likely thought you were going to fail maybe? Now, perhaps unintentionally, you're holding her accountable. Just like I was holding my friends who so badly want to loose weight and tell me over a big dish of cheesy pasta and their 5th glass of wine... and like my husbands friends who may have been more into drinking than my husband was at the time.
So try not to let her get on your nerves too much as she may doing it because she knows that's whats good for her or she knows that you're bettering yourself. People hate that... trying to be better, as it makes them feel that they should push themselves too. (Many of my girlfriends will now only eat salad around me because it holds them accountable and some women that I work with professionally too when they go out to eat without me and they call to tell me later!) Who knows... Maybe years from now your roommate or other friends will remember how you ate and will realize their need to change their lifestyle and go raw! So if you look at it that way, next time she makes a remark,
you can be sure that you're not only doing the right thing for you and your body, but also for those lives that you will touch.
Oh and another note... "Arrrrr ??she gets on my nerves. I feel so betrayed since she already told me se supported me. Plus she has different types of weight issues and I think that is influencing the way she treats me. Can ??t trust anyone these days?!"
You can!! I know what it's like feeling that way. Remember that it's making her feel better when she's picking on you. Like when someone's a bully at school, it's usually stems from another place, like rough family life etc. So it will be hard but don't let her get at you, she's trying to wear you down, most likely not purposefully. But if you stop eating raw, she will feel better because you failed and if you can't stick it out there was no way she ever would (at least that's what may be going on in her subconscious mind).
And there's lots of people here that are fully supportive of you being raw and treating your body like a queen! So here's to you, your majesty
